I've been asked to give my thoughts on my experiences with dating, with my being a disabled person.
I'm in a wheelchair (but can walk some)
I've found the only thing that keeps women from being absolutely revolted or freaked out upon first meeting is to establish solid communication beforehand (these are women I've met online)
I have a lady friend/neighbour who is also in a chair & has met men online or through personals & set up a meeting & they just never show (assumption being they see her in the chair & just leave then are too cowardly to give any explanation)
I've never had anything like this happen because by the time we meet for a face-to-face, she already knows me quite well & I know she has no beef with my being in a chair.
I do make it a point of including the qualifier, "non-disfiguring" when I first n I have a "disability" (I don't want her first thopught/image to be a worst-case-scenario, as it's awful hard to break one's first thought/image, even with plain reality/experiences. . .
Personally, I've now decided I only want to date a disabled woman, as I keep finding that the "Uprights" just don't have a CLUE about what living with such a 'challenge' involves. . . I just find that I have more in common with a disabled woman(including those who have been deemed disabled by society because they are supposedly "overweight")
I refuse to give up hope, even though it seems that might be easier & more realistic -- I, as a true Romantic, have to believe that true love is out there if I just hang in there. . .
